I know sometimes it gets hard to even get out of bed. It feels easier to give up and lose yourself rather than fight.
But putting in effort doesn’t have to be the most difficult thing in the world.
I’m sure you’ve heard the phrase “fake it till you make it” and it sounds like such a hoax. I am here to tell you that it is not.
1. Practice makes better
This statement is why the fake it till you make it saying is so true. Here’s how it works, for myself personally I wanted to be a happy person, so every time someone asks me how I am I say “I am always fantastic “. Why? Because saying that you are fantastic and handing out a big smile is difficult the first few times you do it. Maybe even the first 100 times you do it, because you don’t really believe it. Let me tell you if you have access to something like a blog to try and learn how to better conduct your life, it’s probably better than you give it credit for. (I am absolutely not saying that if you have a mental condition this is how you fix it as opposed to seeking a medical professional)
2. Be Thankful
Something else that is good to be in practice is being thankful for the good things in your life. Pat yourself on the back for creating the wonderful things in your life, you wouldn’t be there if it wasn’t for YOU. Everything you experience in your life is a product of something you created! Even the bad.
Be careful of your thoughts for they become words, be careful of your words for they become actions, be careful of actions for they become behaviors, and watch those behaviors because they become your character.
I try to remind myself of this, it’s up on the wall at my sons school so it’s pretty hard to forget. It’s important, when all you do is worry and dread things that are to come it creates not only a bad mindset, but you’ll twist the outcome. Rather than dwelling on what could be make sure you stop and recognize how wonderful you are, and how much you achieve.
Which brings me to my next point
3.Accept the bad with the good
I already explained why it’s important to be thankful for the good in your life. But as you are being mindfully grateful for the good things, it’s also important to accept the bad things. You don’t have to be happy about them, just accept them. Accept that it happened, rather than hate it or put any sort of energy into that negativity acknowledge that it happened then tell yourself it’s ok. Remind yourself again how strong you are for making it through the bad things. Bad things only remain bad by the energy you put into them.
Look at it and say, “it is a thing that happened, but I will not let it define me”
Choose to be happy in spite of the past. Remember #1
Giving power to negative things in the past only makes you feel worse. Acceptance is key to moving on with a happier life.
4. Conscious creation
This past tidbit is more of an action you can do every day. It’s the first thing I do every morning when I wake up. I get up an hour early, make my coffee, sit on the couch, close my eyes and I imagine how I would like my day to go. My teachers call this creating your day. Without emotions just imagine the course of your day how it would go in your perfect world. If you want to imagine a generous stranger handing you a million dollars then imagine that!!! I mean the chances are kind of slim, in my experience at least it’s hard to mess with free will. I often just imagine financial clarity and I always seem to have money for the things I need.
Just the practice of creating your day will make you better at it. I believe I create my reality every day. I am in charge of my own life and the things that happen in it. The good and occasional bad. And I take it all, because it’s my creation.
Thought I’d add one more bonus topic in here and it’s this Do Not Judge.
Doesn’t matter how good you think you are. You are not in a position to judge other people. It’s not your job to evaluate another persons creation of themselves. You are not without flaw, you are not perfect. So don’t judge, being judgy ultimately only brings the actions that you judged back at yourself. Remember, everyone is only doing their best, while you may feel their best does not measure up to yours, you are different people, with different life circumstances. Don’t pity, don’t judge, just let them be, wish them luck, be mindful of your thoughts. Your words are power!